Hello to my 8 blog readers!!! Did ya all miss me? (feeling? Haha)
I think I must explain why I haven't been able to blog in so long before I start this entry.
1. My computer has been busted (but it's working now, yay!)
2. A lot of crazy things have been happening in my life
3. I went through a self crisis and I didn't know how to get out of my funk
So now that I'm actually writing again (it feels sooooo good to be typing on a keyboard again... Am I weird?) I decided to explore everything on my laptop and see what's been chilling on the "blog side" of things. ANO DAW.
I can't wait to start writing about everything I've been feeling lately and experiencing. I promise you all (8 lang naman kayo, so feel ko kaya ko ikeep yung promise Haha jokes.) that I'll be sharing A LOT of it. May drama (rejection, self-doubt, financial woes, identity crisis-ish) and may good times rin (travels, dates, clothes, makeup, hobbies, etc etc etc) and I know that through this blog, I can again start to feel like my old self. I've missed this and I've missed having an outlet for my Random Ramblings :)
SO ANYWAYYYYYY long introduction aside, I stumbled upon this entry I wrote and saved on my laptop. I reread it and realized, wow, this totally still applies to me now *high five past Karla who wrote this way back* so I thought I would share it with you all. Hope you enjoy this little "I'm back" piece :)
People Can Change
It’s been a couple of days since my last blog post and I
felt I needed to talk about something that has been occupying my thoughts these
past few days. A couple of days ago, I was talking to a single and super hot
friend when she asked me if I believed if people could “change.” This super
stumped me. I didn’t really know what to say. For once, wala akong masabi. Me!
Ms. Daldal Queen/ I-Always-Have-Something-To-Say!
Then, last
night, over deli sandwich making (we go to Santi’s to get our deli sandwich fix
ON), I was talking to Bubba about a new found friend I had. He was skeptical
about what I was saying (not that he was bashing her or saying bad things. He
just listens, which I love since I talk a lot) and I remember blurting
out “Well, maybe she’s changed. People can change.” Then it hit me. I had said
the answer to the question my friend had asked me. Kamusta naman timing ng
answer ko!
Which leads me to this Simple Joy: People, no matter what they’ve done, or who people remember them to be,
can in fact, change. How awesome is that right? Hear me out first before
you contradict me (sa mga kontrabida sa
buhay ko, konting tiis lang bago kayo mag react. May point ako, swear!)
Let me draw from my own personal experience. Ang deep
naman ng first line. Yehes!
I am not perfect (obvious naman diba?) I’m not the nicest
person out there and I sure as hell haven’t been nice to some people I’ve encountered. I’ve fought with people, I’ve had
people say bad things about me and I’ve had (and still have) people that hate
me even if they don’t know me personally. Before, I used to get so hurt when I
would hear people say bad things about me. I’m not saying it doesn’t hurt
anymore now (it still does, I mean, who likes hearing people say bad things
about you diba?) but now I’ve learned to just breathe in and let it go.
Some people don’t believe I’ve changed. Some people don’t
believe I love God as much as I say I do (di naman ako madre ok, I just attend
Bible study and pray more). But you know what? That’s their problem. If they
would rather believe what others say, or believe I am the person that I was
before and will never change, that’s their burden to carry in their hearts. I’ve
learned that I don’t need a lot of friends. I don’t need a lot of people to
like me. As long as I have a steady group of friends that I can count with
my fingers on, I’m okay. I just wish people would learn to open up their
minds and hearts to the possibility that it can happen. People can change.
This is how I see it. You hear bad stuff about a certain
person from your
friends/family/schoolmates/workmates/clubmates/soulmates/____+mates. With that
“information” in mind you then have a choice.
You can choose to believe the hearsay and go on with your life or, you can hear
it, and then if you ever come across the said person, you can see for yourself
if what “everyone” is saying is true. I just want to make some points about
this:
- It’s so easy for us to pass judgment on anyone except ourselves. One wrong choice from someone (HELLO, it’s not like we’ve never made bad decisions in our lives, check out your outfits of FB pics from high school nyahaha! #guilty) and it’s Judgment Buffet for us.
- People love to talk. Whether it be about the latest local/international celebrity scandal, the latest concert or party, we all talk. In short, chismoso tayong lahat (including me!)
- More often than not, the people who have the most to say, know the least. Think about it. Your friend (I’m not saying bad siya ok I’m just trying to make a point) tells you all about this girl who “everybody” (EVERYBODY as in pati family niya? The people in China? Brazil? Lahat ng mga politician? Mga guard? Mga MMDA??) hates cause she did this and that. She said this and that. Eh, di naman kayo schoolmates/batchmates/workmates/clubmates/etc etc. so how does your friend know if that’s even true?! Diba??
- The bandwagon sickness. I’ll admit to this as well. Sometimes, masaya makiride sa mga kwento and chismis. It feels good to “be in the loop” and know things about people. But remember, there’s a line that should be drawn. Just because “everyone” is saying one thing, doesn’t mean it’s true.
- I know people talk about me (uyy popular? Or FEELING popular lang? Haha!) I know there are A LOT of people out there who have A LOT to say about me (I’m not being feeling okay I know this for a fact because I have friends that tell me things and people who actually care enough to let me know what’s going on) and you know what? It’s sad. It really is sad. I feel bad in the sense that for me, get to know someone first before you hate them. Get to know someone for who they are NOW, and not for who they were BEFORE. If you don’t want to be judged for YOUR past, then don’t judge someone for THEIRS. That’s the beauty of the past- it’s not a part of your NOW or your FUTURE. Tapos na siya, so why make it important NOW? Diba?
I decided a long time ago (matanda na kasi ako HAHA joke.
Forever young ang peg ko) that I wasn’t going to let what people say about
other people affect how I see them. I’ve gotten to know a lot of GOOD, KIND
hearted people who HAVE CHANGED. Who HAVE GOTTEN BETTER. And I can honestly say
it makes me happy to know that I didn’t let a little chismis get in the way of my
new friend, of a friendship that I know is good and true.
So again, I say with a lot of love and a smile on my face
(kinikilig ako for some reason WHY Haha), be open to the fact that people can
change. That people can learn from their
past and become better.
CHANGE: A simple joy that can turn your life
around.
So there you go. Thought this was a nice pick-me-upper for the week ahead. Will definitely be blogging again this week. :)
Love you all!
21 comments
Thanks for sharing your thoughts to us Ate Karla, I will always support you and Kuya Nico even tho my friends keep on telling me im a JEJ na cos im FANGIRLING hahaha! -sharmaine
ReplyDeleteGod bless you po and more Projects to come!
Aww you're not "jej" Sharmaine! Thanks for reading :)
DeleteDon't mind them are karls! Bored na bored kasi sila kaya they say bad things about you. Haha People believe in you. Hope to see you more on tv na! I miss your craziness especially with kuya nico (you know, vlog haha) God bless you and your family. Take care! xx J
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jaia! Actually this is an old entry and surprisingly, wala naman "bad things" now which is AWESOME Hihi :)
DeleteFinally you're back and I promise you this, Ill be forever a follower of this blog and of course you, ate Karla!! You're such an inspiration. Huhu.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Pyra! I'm soooooo flattered! Thank youuuuu I hope I don't disappoint! :)
DeleteAaahhh!! I just missed your words! You always seem to make me feel better about things. Nakakagaan ng loob. I'm looking forward to read about your new entries Ate Karla!! Visit UST again pleaaaaaseee!!!! Stay as you are!!! <3 <3 <3
ReplyDeleteHi Regina! Thank you for this, I'm glad I provide some form of comfort. Visit UST? Well... I'm actually going to TWICE this coming October... Hihi :) Check my Twitter for more details! Hope to see you on October 11 or October 24! :)
DeleteYeah, I agree. People do change, and we shouldn't judge them right away. We don't know what they're going through. Change is not also an overnight thing. It takes time and effort.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, learned a lot fron your post. Will visit soon!:)
AMEN Marteena! Very well said. Thanks for reading! :)
DeleteHi Karla :) glad you're blogging again! Will you be sharing with us why you're no longer in MYX? We miss seeing you on tv you know :(
ReplyDeleteThank you! No, I don't think I need to go into much detail on that. But you guys can still catch me on Solar Sports! :)
DeleteI love how you reply to each comment! Will make abang on solar sports then! :)
DeleteI'm so glad you're back!!! I may not know you personally but you inspired me in some way. Reading your entries felt like I was talking to a good friend :)
ReplyDeleteAww thank you!!! I'd like to think that everyone who comes to this blog is a friend. I'm glad that this has had a positive effect on you. :)
DeleteAww this really moved me! Very well said, Karla! Please don't feel bad, everyone has their flaws, but you really are perfect to me (us) hehe! You've been my constant inspiration to live everyday to the fullest :) I hope you blog more often :) Your entries (rants haha) are all relatable and I think everyone would love your blog!! Best wishes and I'll be your constant supporter alll the waaayyyy!! - Mia Torres
ReplyDeleteHi Mia! Awww thank you so much for seeing my blog and entries as positive and comforting in a way. I never ever think I will ever get used to people being so sweet to me about my blog. It means loads to know that there are people like you out there :) May God Bless you always! xx
DeleteMaybe this is what my dream was about? "Be kinder. Be a good person". Nice to see you writing again, Karkar!
ReplyDeleteAWWW!!! Hi Jamba!!! Maybe it was? Hahaha! :)
DeleteBasta Ms. Mawawala silang lahat pero ako maiiwan. Hindi ako magsasawang magbasa ng blog mo, maniwala sayo, at suportahan ka pati si Nico. 😊
ReplyDeleteP.S Sorry, ngayon nalang ako ulit naka catch up sa blog mo.
Basta Ms. Mawawala silang lahat pero ako maiiwan. Hindi ako magsasawang magbasa ng blog mo, maniwala sayo, at suportahan ka pati si Nico. 😊
ReplyDeleteP.S Sorry, ngayon nalang ako ulit naka catch up sa blog mo.
Thanks for reading my entry! I hope you enjoyed it. :)