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By Karla Aguas - 4:09:00 PM

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I happened to stumble upon this while I was browsing through my Facebook feed and I have to say, this really hit me. Now don't get me wrong- I LOVE Victoria's Secret. They have quality underwear and great makeup that thankfully doesn't make me breakout. I love the hot pink mini robes that the models wear and I religiously watch the VS Fashion Shows of every year when I work out or want to start getting fit. I looooveee the angels especially Candice, Lily, Behati and Miranda. I really do love the brand. I love the message they're trying to send out to empower women and make them feel sexy. But for me, I just think they should keep in mind that these kinds of "sexy vibes" (I couldn't think of a better term HAHA #fail) are appropriate for an older age group. It's always about the RIGHT TIME and AGE for certain things and that's why I'm a little concerned with this new campaign they're going to release.


I do not, however, like what they're planning to do with regards to a more "Teeny Bopper" line. I didn't even know they were planning to do this until I read this letter. I urge you all to take a little time and read this- just to see what you guys think about the whole situation. I personally love the brand but am totally against the different messages that they are planning to sell to the younger market. Please feel free to tell me what you think as well. I believe that the readers of my blog (all 8 of you HAHA) are smart, opinionated and well informed so I really do want to post other matters as well that concern/interest me.

I also put this on my blog because for me, a parent's love is something we more often than not take for granted. Remember all those fights you had with your mom or dad about not being able to go out or hang out with certain people? Well, I honestly believe and have learned (through many fights and groundings- I wasn't really an angel growing up) that in the end, our parents only want what's TRULY best for us. No hidden agendas or anything. Reading this made me realize that the media and brands are getting scary- the messages they send out are what can shape the next generations and if they aren't positive messages, what will happen to everyone? So please feel free to read this letter when you can. I will also post the link to this man's website after the jump. :)

A Letter to Victoria’s Secret From a Father


An open letter to Victoria’s Secret regarding their choice to make an underwear line aimed at young teenagers. 

Dear Victoria’s Secret,
I am a father of a three year old girl. She loves princesses, Dora the Explorer, Doc McStuffins and drawing pictures for people. Her favorite foods are peanut butter and jelly, cheese and pistachios.
Even though she is only three, as a parent I have had those thoughts of my daughter growing up and not being the little girl she is now. It is true what they say about kids, they grow up fast. No matter how hard I try I know that she will not be the little ball of energy she is now; one day she will be a rebellious teenager that will more than likely think her dad is a total goof ball and would want to distance herself from my embarrassing presence.
I know that this is far down the line and I try to spend as much time as I can with her making memories of this special time.
But as I read an article today posted on The Black Sphere, it really got me thinking that maybe the culture that we currently find ourselves in is not helping the cause.
Recently I read an article that Victoria’s Secret is launching a line of underwear and bras aimed at middle school aged children. The line will be called “Bright Young Things” and will feature ” lace black cheeksters with the word “Wild” emblazoned on them, green and white polka-dot hipsters screen printed with “Feeling Lucky?” and a lace trim thong with the words, “Call me” on the front.”
As a dad, this makes me sick.
I believe that this sends the wrong message to not only my daughter but to all young girls.
I don’t want my daughter to ever think that her self-worth and acceptance by others is based on the choice of her undergarments. I don’t want my daughter to ever think that to be popular or even attractive she has to have emblazon words on her bottom.
I want my daughter (and every girl) to be faced with tough decisions in her formative years of adolescence. Decisions like should I be a doctor or a lawyer? Should I take calculus as a junior or a senior? Do I want to go to Texas A&M or University of Texas or some Ivy League School? Should I raise awareness for slave trafficking or lack of water in developing nations? There are many, many more questions that all young women should be asking themselves… not will a boy (or girl) like me if I wear a “call me” thong?
I want my daughter to know that she is perfect the way she is; I want my daughter to know that no matter what underwear she is wearing it does not define her.
I believe that this new line “Bright Young Things” thwarts the efforts of empowering young women in this country. “Bright Young Things” gives off the message that women are sex objects. This new line promotes it at a dangerously young age.
I implore you to reconsider your decision to start this line.
By doing so you will put young girl’s self-esteem, self-worth and pride above profits.
Sincerely,
Rev. Evan Dolive
Houston, TX
Feel free to visit Rev. Evan Dolive's site HERE
What do YOU think of this letter? :)

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15 comments

  1. I agree and understand the side of the father, he's just concern for her daughter and I admire him, for saying out his side, lahat tayo dapat maging aware sa mga pinapagawa at pinapanood natin sa mga bata sa atin, minsan kasi sa mga suot ok lang na super sexy kasi bata pa naman, pero I think dapat habang bata palang sila where in may takot at nakikinig pa sila sa mga magulang e itake advantage na un, na ma disiplina na sila para madala na nila yun pag tanda nila. Ako Im already 20 pero hindi lahat ng gusto kung isuot na susuot ko, or pinipili ko mga damit na sinusuot ko, iniisip ko muna if magiging ok lang ba sa parents ko if I will wear this kind of undies or clothes.

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    1. I totally agree with you. We should really be more conscious and aware of the kinds of messages we send out to the public and to the younger generations! I don't think VS is trying to influence their customers in a bad way- I just think that since they're BIG on empowering women and making them feel sexy, they should also know WHAT AGE is appropriate for these kinds of messages. It's good that you think about that but more importantly think about for yourself! Think if that's the kind of image you want to display to the public. Cause as shallow as it may sound, our physical appearance is the first thing people notice and make quick judgments based on. Thanks for your opinion! :)

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  2. Totes disagree. Not that I am on the side of VS, but more of it's just a fun way for teens to incorporate into their closet the things that adults have. You know how teenagers are now. They want to grow up fast. Also, I was exposed into this kind of environment at an early age. (I lived in Europe before, by the way.) I think it's about how you raise your children and telling them that these things are for fun only. It's about disciplining them in the right way. Also, I think you should tell your child about this so she would understand and at least she got the information from you. Unless, you want your child to learn it from her classmates in school? But that's just my opinion. :)

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    1. Thanks for your opinion. I get it and respect it! I guess for some of us it's just that you can incorporate things into your wardrobe without having to make it exactly like the ones for older people. Just because kids want to grow up fast these days doesn't make it okay or right. I mean you have shows like Gossip Girl and Pretty Little Liars (I'm NOT saying these shows are bad I used to watch GG for the first 3 seasons) that depict high school kids sleeping around and getting drunk- making it look extra cool. I mean these are formidable years and they are also influenced by the shows they watch. :)

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  3. I agree. I think that one of the factors that makes teens liberated are the products in the market today. I percepted VS as the manufacturer of lingerie not that suitable for teens. Besides, it wouldn't be that good to see messages like "feeling lucky" on your undies. It makes a girl/teen too much available to boys. Me, being a teenager, takes the stand of the father. If I would be a parent someday, I will totally fight this new trend. I woudn't want my child to be a giveaway to others. I am fifteen but I wouldn't want to wear something like those. I guess it depends on the person. :) more power Karla. I am an avid reader of your blogs. I felt sad because you always say that you only have a few readers that is why I made a google account. Hihi. You have a lot of readers. Go Karla!

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    1. I agree with you. I guess it's fine for them to come out with a teen line as long as they try to remember that their market are TEENAGERS. I mean, "Feeling Lucky" on underwear? What does that really say, right? But then again it's just my opinion. I just really wanted to put up an entry that discussed an issue like this. I just really love hearing the different opinions of people. Awww thank you for making an account for me! I'm so KILIG Hihihi :) Thank you again Krystyna!!! xx

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  4. Paano ako magsisimula? Hihi. Uhm. Agree ako sa concern nung father kasi iba na ang takbo ng isip ng kabataan ngayon. Mas malakas na kasi ang impluwensya ng media sakanila. Kung ano yung nakikita o napapanood yun ang ginagaya nila. Dapat may guidance pa rin ng parents, dapat mas maipaintindi nila sa mga bata kung ano yung tama sa mali. Ok lang siguro na maglabas ng ganoong brand ang VS pero sana dun sa appropriate na ang age. Kasi yung iba gugustuhin yun kasi yung mga friends nila may ganun o feeling nila ang cool ng dating nila, sikat sila. Nagkakaroon din kasi ng peer pressure. Iba na kasi yung panahon ngayon e. Sana mas maging concern pa rin nila o natin yung reputation natin, kasi tayo din naman ang gumagawa o nagbibigay ng dahilan kung paano tayo pakikitunguhan ng mga tao. O kung paano nila tayo tignan as a person. Minsan kasi dun din nagrereflect yung pagkatao natin tsaka yung parents natin. Yun lang ang opinyon ko. :) Don't look at it on a bad way. Thank you Ms. :)

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    1. I appreciate your opinion and definitely respect it! You made very good points. Thank you for sharing them Paulyn :)

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  5. This is sad. I grew up with my dad since my mom passed away when I was still in HS -- we are all girls. I thank God that He gave us a father who perfectly tought us how to grow up properly - with dignity. He did not expose us to all the wealth the world can offer. He did not teach us how to flaunt what we have. He always tells us that above anything else, we should learn how to take care of ourselves. . We grew up with pride and dignity. We entertain guys but we do not depend on them. We don't see that beauty = famous. We grew up being aware of how media massively influences our thoughts and opionos. He tells us that we shouldnt need to be "IN" to the world .. what matters most is that we have dignity. We don't need all the approval of the world. we dont need to be famous. We just need to be loving, caring, simple and honest individuals. . sad that kids nowadays grow up thinking what should they do to get all the attention of the world when in the end, when all else fails, the world will forget them. . but their parents who they disobeyed, fought with, will only be the persons who will be FOREVER behind them, who will hug them when they failed. I hope everyone knows the value of our parents. WE dont need everything there is. We only need GOD, our parents, our values . . God bless KARLA! <3

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    1. I'm sorry to hear about your mom but God is good to have blessed you with such a wonderful dad. Be sure to let him know how much you love him as often as you can. It is good that you grew up aware of the media's influence and you learned how to make decisions on your own based on your morals and values. Thank you for sharing your story and opinion! God Bless! :)

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  6. natawa ako sa (all 8 of you), you have readersss karla, keep on writing, your blogging style is far different from other bloggers out there. malaman.

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    1. Awww thank you!!!! Means A LOT! :):):)

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  7. Hi Karla! :) I told you I'll reply on your blog (tweeted you)! Haha! Anyhow, I feel for the father... I'm currently living in Oz... And I can really see the difference of teens here and teens over there! I'm not saying that they're bad or anything... They are just more liberated than us. I'm also not saying that it is bad to be liberated... It's just that, with what the media is trying to portray now make teens think that appearance are more important than their moral values and their studies. And nagiging factor sya for bullying. It dictates what's "IN" and what's "NOT". Children and teenagers should enjoy their youth. (Feeling old ako!) But honestly, they have their whole future to be an adult... Why expose them to those kinds of things when they can enjoy the simple things in life? It feels nice to be innocent because you will not feel the pressure to know everything... You'll not feel the pressure to please other people. More importantly, girls, ladies, and women are not to be sex symbols or sex materials! One thing I really admire about our Muslim brothers and sisters... People might think they discriminate their women because they are women but they are actually protecting them from the exploitation and lustful innuendos of the outside world. I hope that people from the showbiz industry will think of their influence to our young ones. There is more to life than looks! God bless, Karla! :) --- G <3

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    1. Hi G! Aww I'll check my Twitter, then! Been pretty busy this afternoon but I'll log on ASAP. :)

      "There is more to life than looks!" -- Love this line!!! Preach! Thank you so much for your opinion and thoughts! I appreciate it!!! :)

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    2. I tweeted it a few days ago! Ngayon ko lang nagawang mag-reply sa blog mo. Hehe! --- G :)

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