Love. Love? Love!

By Karla Aguas - 9:11:00 PM


IT’S BEEN A WHILE SINCE I’VE POSTED AN ENTRY ON MY THOUGHTS/THINGS I FIND IMPORTANT/SOMETHING THAT A BUNCH OF YOU ASKED ME ABOUT SO I DECIDED TO WRITE SOMETHING NOW. AS YOU CAN TELL FROM THE TITLE (COME ON NOW, IT’S PRETTY DARN OBVIOUS) THIS ENTRY IS ALL ABOUT THOSE FOUR LETTERS THAT COULD MEAN A WHOLE LOT OF DIFFERENT THINGS TO DIFFERENT PEOPLELOVE.
NOW I KNOW SOME OF YOU ARE ALL LIKE: YOU’RE ONLY 22, WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT LOVE? OR GEEZ YOU’VE ONLY HAD LIKE, 2 BOYFRIENDS BEFORE YOUR GUY NOW, WHAT DO YOU KNOW? OR COME ON, REALLY? …AND I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND. I’M NOT SAYING I’M AN EXPERT ON LOVE. ON THE CONTRARY, I’M THE COMPLETE OPPOSITEI’VE HAD MY HEARTBROKEN, BROKEN SOMEONE’S HEART AND WAS COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY UNSURE OF MY FEELINGS TOWARDS CERTAIN PEOPLE. I’M THE FIRST PERSON TO SAY THAT LOVE IS BOTH THE SCARIEST AND MOST WONDERFUL THING THAT A PERSON CAN EXPERIENCE.
SO WHAT BRINGS ME TO THIS ENTRY? WELL, YOU GUYS. THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN READING MY BLOG AND LEAVING ME MESSAGES AND QUESTIONS (I THANK YOU ALL, IT MEANS A LOT THAT PEOPLE ACTUALLY READ THIS AND TAKE THE TIME TO SEND ME SUGGESTIONS, QUESTIONS AND TOUCHING MESSAGES) HAVE BEEN ASKING A LOT ABOUT THIS SUBJECT, AND I THOUGHT I’D SHARE A COUPLE OF THINGS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE AND ALL THAT IT HAS TO OFFER, BOTH THE GOOD AND THE BAD. TO ANYONE WHO FEELS LIKE READING THIS, HERE YOU GO. I’LL BE USING SOME OF THE QUESTIONS YOU SENT ME FOR REFERENCE. SO LET’S GET STARTED SHALL WE? :)


WHAT IS LOVE FOR YOU?
WELL, YOU CAN LOOK UP THAT FAMOUS PASSAGE IN THE BIBLE (IT’S IN CORINTHIANS) AND YOU CAN DEFINE LOVE AS BEING PATIENT AND KIND, NOT JEALOUS AND SO ON, AND TO A CERTAIN EXTENT, THAT IS LOVE. BUT MORE THAN THAT, I’D LIKE TO THINK THAT FOR ME, LOVE IS, WELL, GOD.
I KNOW, I KNOW, IT SOUNDS SO CHEESY. SO “FEELING ANGELIC” AND WHATEVER BUT THAT’S WHAT I THINK LOVE IS. LOVE IS GOD. LOOK CLOSELY, LOOK DEEPER INTO IT. GOD IS LOVE. HE IS THE PERFECT LOVER AND SHOWS US WHAT IT’S LIKE TO EXPERIENCE TRUE LOVE. HE LOVES US, FAULTS AND ALL. FORGIVES US, TRUSTS US, TAKES CARE OF US AND BLESSES US WITH ALL SORTS OF THINGS THAT WE DON’T EVEN DESERVE. HE’S ALWAYS THERE TO LISTEN, HE’S THERE EVEN WHEN WE CURSE HIM, HATE ON HIM, DOUBT HIM AND NEGLECT HIM.
LOVE IS CARING FOR OTHERS, ASIDE FROM YOURSELF. LOVE IS ABOUT GOING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND TOUCHING ANOTHER PERSON’S LIFE. LOVE IS ABOUT THINKING OF SOMEONE ELSE, BEFORE YOURSELF. BUT LOVE IS ALSO ABOUT CARING FOR YOURSELF. IT’S TRICKY, I KNOW, BUT YOU CAN’T LOVE SOMEONE ELSE WITHOUT LOVING YOURSELF FIRST. AND THAT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING I LEARNED ABOUT LOVE. YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF AND APPRECIATE YOURSELF FOR ALL THAT YOU ARE. IF YOU CAN’T DO THAT, HOW DO YOU EXPECT TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE? HOW DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO LOVE YOU?

WHAT’S THE BEST THING ABOUT LOVE?
EVERYTHING.
EVERYTHING ABOUT LOVE IS FANTASTIC. THE RISKS YOU TAKE, THE DECISIONS YOU MAKE, THE FEELING YOU GET WHEN YOU WAKE UP, THE THOUGHTS IN YOUR HEAD BEFORE BED. EVERYTHING ABOUT LOVE IS GREAT. EVERYTHING ABOUT LOVE IS WONDERFUL.
KNOWING THAT SOMEONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOUR FAMILY, CARES ABOUT YOU AND ONLY WANTS WHAT’S BEST FOR, I MEAN, HOW CAN THAT BE ANY BETTER? KNOWING THAT YOU’RE COMFORTABLE ENOUGH IN BEING YOURSELF AND HAVING SOMEONE LOVE YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU ARE AND ARE NOT, HOW CAN THAT NOT BE THE BEST THING?
GROWING AND CHANGING INTO A BETTER YOU- THAT’S ANOTHER GREAT THING ABOUT LOVE. LOVE MOVES YOU. IT CHANGES YOU TO BE THE BEST THAT YOU CAN BE. AT THE SAME TIME, IT HELPS THE PERSON YOU LOVE CHANGE AS WELL. YOU GROW TOGETHER, IN LOVE. YOU BECOME BETTER, TOGETHER, IN LOVE. 

WHAT’S THE WORST THING ABOUT LOVE?
EVERYTHING.
I KNOW, HOW EVERYTHING BE THE BEST AND WORST THING RIGHT? WELL, THAT’S HOW I FEEL IT IS. EVERYTHING ABOUT LOVE IS FANTASTIC. BUT AT THE SAME TIME, EVERYTHING ABOUT LOVE IS SCARY AS WELL. IT’S SCARY TO OPEN UP TO SOMEONE, TRUST SOMEONE NOT TO LET YOU DOWN AND GIVE SO MUCH OF YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION TO SOMEONE YOU’RE UNSURE OF. BUT THAT’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE TOO. IT’S A RISK. AND A PRETTY DARN BIG ONE.
ANOTHER PAINFUL THING ABOUT LOVE? IT’S NOT ALWAYS RETURNEDYOU CAN’T MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU. YOU CAN’T FORCE THEM TO LOVE YOU AND BE WITH YOU. LOVE IS SOMETHING YOU CAN’T MANIPULATE OR CONTROLYOU JUST HAVE TO LET IT HAPPEN. SO IF SOMEONE YOU LOVE DOESN’T LOVE YOU, THEN, AS HARD AS IT IS, YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON. YOU CAN’T FORCE THEM AND YOU’RE DOING YOURSELF NO GOOD BY STAYING AND WAITING FOR THEM TO LOVE YOU. YOU’RE ROBBING YOURSELF OF HAPPINESS AND MOST OF ALL, YOU’RE KEEPING YOURSELF AWAY FROM SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO IS WAITING TO LOVE SOMEONE LIKE YOU. THERE ARE SO MANY OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE WAITING TO MEET YOUTHERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THINKING ABOUT WHEN THEY ARE GOING TO MEET SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE YOU. SO GO ON, FORGET ABOUT THE ONES THAT DON’T LOVE YOU, AND START LOOKING FOR THE ONES THAT DO.

I’M UNSURE OF MY FEELINGS. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. IS LOVE LIKE THAT? DO YOU BECOME UNSURE AT TIMES?
HONESTLY? NO. LOVE ISN’T LIKE THAT.
I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN THOUGH, I’VE BEEN UNSURE IN SOME OF MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS. AND LOOK NOW, THEY’RE IN THE PASTI’M NOT SAYING YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NO LONGER GOOD OR WORKING, BUT I THINK IT’S ABOUT TIME YOU REEVALUATE THE RELATIONSHIP AND FIGURE OUT WHAT’S CAUSING YOU TO BECOME UNSURE.
ONE THING I LEARNED FROM MY THEOLOGY CLASS ON COMMITMENT AND MARRIAGE IS THAT IF YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU’RE GROWING IN THE RELATIONSHIP YOU’RE IN, THEN IT MIGHT BE TIME TO THINK ABOUT THINGS AGAIN. IF YOU DON’T SEE AN END (AND THE END BEING MARRIAGE OR LIFE FOREVER WITH THAT ONE PERSON) THEN RETHINK EVERYTHING.BECAUSE WHAT’S THE POINT IN BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DON’T SEE YOURSELF BEING WITH THE OTHER PERSON FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? YOU HAVE TO TALK TO THEM AND FIGURE THINGS OUT. BECAUSE IN THE END, IT’S UNFAIR TO THE BOTH OF YOU IF YOU’RE JUST WITH EACH OTHER BECAUSE OF CONVENIENCE, OR THE FACT THAT YOU’VE BEEN TOGETHER ALREADY FOR 62754746 YEARS AND SO ON. THOSE FACTORS DON’T COUNT IF YOU’RE UNHAPPY, NOT CONTENT, UNSURE.
THERE’S A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN STAYING WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AND WANT TO BE WITH THEM AND BEING WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU DON’T WANT TO BE ALONE. REMEMBER, ALWAYS REMEMBER: THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEENBEING ALONE, AND BEING LONELY. LOVE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE, BECAUSE YOU’RE A BETTER PERSON WHEN YOU’RE WITH THEM. LOVE THE PERSON BECAUSE YOU LOVE YOURSELF. DON’T LOVE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU DON’T WANT TO BE ALONE. AND MOST OF ALL, DON’T LOVE THE PERSON BECAUSE YOU’RE BORED, OR BECAUSE YOU DON’T WANT TO HURT THEIR FEELINGS BY REJECTING THEM SO YOU STAY WITH THEMTRUST ME, YOU’RE DOING THEM MORE HARM THAN GOOD IF YOU GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP HALF-HEARTEDLY.

CAN I LOVE AGAIN EVEN WITH MY HEARTBROKEN?
THAT’S UP TO YOU.
I CAN’T TELL YOU THAT IMMEDIATELY AFTER YOU GET YOUR HEARTBROKEN, SOMEONE AMAZING WILL JUMP IN AND SWEEP YOU OFF YOUR FEET AND FORGET ABOUT YOUR EX, NO. THIS DECISION, LOVING AGAIN AFTER GETTING YOUR HEART BROKEN, IS COMPLETELY AND ENTIRELY, UP. TO. YOU. As they say when it comes to fashion "Tiis ganda" - I think that applies in love, too. You need to make "tiis" the pain and grow from it, so you can become better. :)
I KNOW IT HURTS. I KNOW IT FEELS AS IF A CHUNK OF YOU HAS BEEN RIPPED OFF AND I KNOWIT SEEMS LIKE THINGS WON’T GET ANY BETTER. I KNOW EVERYTHING SONG IS ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON, EVERY LYRIC A STAB TO YOUR HEART. EVERY COUPLE YOU SEE WALKING BY IS A CONSTANT REMINDER THAT YOU’RE ALONE. I KNOW. I’VE BEEN THERE. I’VE BEEN THERE, ON THAT BED, NOT WANTING TO GET UP, NOT WANTING TO EAT, NOT WANTING TO DO ANYTHING EXCEPT LAY THERE AND DIEI’VE BEEN THERE. BUT I’M HERE NOW. AND I CAN TELL YOU, IT GETS BETTER. IT DOES. IT ALWAYS DOES.
IT DOESN’T SEEM LIKE IT NOW, BUT THINGS WILL TURN UPBUT ONLY IF YOU LET IT. THAT’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED. EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO IN LIFE, EVERY REACTION YOU HAVE, IS ALL UP TO YOU. SO IN THE END, HEARTBROKEN AND EYES SWOLLEN, LOVING AGAIN AND GETTING BETTER, IS UP TO YOU. AND HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO MOVE ON.

IF LOVE IS A RISK, THEN WHY EVEN LOVE AT ALL?
BECAUSE IT’S WORTH IT.
I KNOW THIS WAS WORDY AND A LITTLE LONG BUT I HOPE YOU GET WHAT I’M TRYING TO SAY. I HOPE I DIDN’T COME OFF LIKE SOME KNOW-IT-ALL OR SOME PREACHER. I JUST REALLY WANTED TO SAY HOW I FELT ABOUT THE ISSUE. IF YOU HAVE ANY COMMENTS, QUESTIONS OR MESSAGES, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO SEND ME WHAT YOU THINK. I’D LOVE TO HEAR WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY. :)
TAKE IT FROM ME. YOU MIGHT HAVE TO MAKE A COUPLE MORE MISTAKES AND BAD DECISIONS WITH REGARD TO LOVE BUT THINK ABOUT IT THIS WAY: THAT’S JUST ONE LESS MISTAKE AWAY FROM REAL LOVE. :)
SO THANKS FOR READING!

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23 comments

  1. Hi Ms. :) How are you? I love this entry. Bagay sa love month. Hehe. Ang sarap lang ng feeling ng inlove no? :'> Siguro, dapat hindi ko na sya intayin no? Ang tagal na e. 7 years? Mula highschool, e malapit na akong grumaduate sa college. Haha!
    "YOU’RE ROBBING YOURSELF OF HAPPINESS AND MOST OF ALL, YOU’RE KEEPING YOURSELF AWAY FROM SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO IS WAITING TO LOVE SOMEONE LIKE YOU. THERE ARE SO MANY OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE WAITING TO MEET YOU. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THINKING ABOUT WHEN THEY ARE GOING TO MEET SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE YOU. SO GO ON, FORGET ABOUT THE ONES THAT DON’T LOVE YOU, AND START LOOKING FOR THE ONES THAT DO."
    Gusto ko tong part na 'to. Tinamaan ako. Haha! Pero, totoo naman kasi. ito lang, kasi wala naman akong past tsaka present. Yun lang, na nagkagusto ako sa taong di naman ako gusto sa loob ng 7 years. Salamat sa paggising sakin. :) Lagi mo talagang pinapa-realize sakin ang reality ng buhay. THANK YOU. :)
    2 thumbs up for this entry. Lovelots! More beautiful entries pa ha? :) Take care.

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    1. Aww I'm so glad you liked it and were able to relate to it. I really enjoy reading the comments of my readers and I love knowing that in some way the entry really speaks to them. Thank you so much!!! :)

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  2. I totally agree on every word you said, K. I think I might've said them on my blog posts from a couple of months/years ago. And I've also been there so I know the feels. The best part is: It gets better. It does. It always does. Sana more entries like this pa. :)

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    1. Thanks Shayne! I've had this entry on my Tumblr for a long time and it got so many hits that I decided to post it on this new blog too. I'm glad people are enjoying it! :)

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  3. I've been also unsure of my feelings towards others. I don't know if it's love or just a simple admiration. Thank you for letting me realize that i need to love myself first before others.. I'm having some doubts kasi about myself; if i'm good enough or pretty enough for that person. Well, i need to accept my flaws and see the good in it. At least im unique :)

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    1. YES YOU ARE UNIQUE!!! You are very special and there's no one else like you out there in the world! Live it! Ikaw na! Hihi :) I'm glad I helped you realize some things. I'm soooo happy!!!

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  4. I really learned a lot ate Karla. You truly are inspiring. I love you and i'm happy for you and kuya Nico. I like the way you describe that love us the worst and wonderful thing that a girl can experience. Thank you for posting this =).

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    1. Thank you so much! I am very blessed to have a man like him in my life. I guess because of everything I've been through in my life (MMK much? HAHA) I must've done something right cause now I couldn't be happier! Hope you come back for more entries :)

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  5. You are so inloved. Ang cheesy. Hihi. Kaya naman gusto kong laging binabasa blog mo. Thank you for being an inspiration. :) By the way, you had this sweet birthday blog post for Kuya Nico way back I-know-when in your old blog. I cant find it. I wanna read it again. Huhu

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    1. Aww thank you Hihi :) Yes I remember that entry! Maybe I'll post it again soon :)

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  6. I have grown to love you more and more na talaga (Creepy HAHA) In a way na, I can't help but open my phone to check if you have new entries, tweets, or photos on IG. I don't know, I just love how the words in your blogs speak to me in a very touching, moving, inspiring way. :)) You're part of my life! Seriously. ;*

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    1. Awwww thank you so much!!! It's not creepy naman, medyo lang! HAHAHA JOKE. Hope you come back for more entries :)

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  7. Ate Karlaaaa! This is very inspiring, not just for the people who are inlove. I mean, generally. And this is also realistic, parang lahat kasi ng aspeto naishow, at damang dama na TOTOO lahat, hindi yung pacharot lang. I love you, your blogs, your fashion and you being with Kuya Nico. Please stay happy, blessed & inlove. God bless :)

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    1. Thank you! I'm glad you see it that way! :)

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  8. It really hurts to love someone who can't love you in return. :((

    Thank you for this touching entry ate Karla :)

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    1. Yes it does that's why you have to learn to let go and make room for someone who will love you! :)

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  9. Ate Karla! :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It`s very inspiring :')

    My favorite part: "IT DOESN’T SEEM LIKE IT NOW, BUT THINGS WILL TURN UP. BUT ONLY IF YOU LET IT. THAT’S WHAT I’VE LEARNED. EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO IN LIFE, EVERY REACTION YOU HAVE, IS ALL UP TO YOU. SO IN THE END, HEARTBROKEN AND EYES SWOLLEN, LOVING AGAIN AND GETTING BETTER, IS UP TO YOU. AND HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO MOVE ON."

    I will always keep that in mind. Better days ahead. God bless you, Ate Karla! :)

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    1. Hi Michi! You're very much welcome- I'm glad you enjoyed this entry :) Yes I truly believe in that and that's why I am more aware of my actions and my choices when it comes to tough situations and problems. I'm glad you liked that line in particular. God Bless! :)

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  10. Hi again ate Karla!:) your blog is really cool, I can definitely relate. It helps me a lot!:) I have been going through some hard times in life lately and have had to remind myself that sometimes you need to let go of people who doesn't love you back,Peeps who bring out the negatives in your life and the like. It's better to start focusing more on yourself and be positive. Thanks a bunch ate Karla! stay nice and pretty! God Bless. :)

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    1. Hi Jan! I'm glad this blog has helped bring your comfort through tough times. Yes, at the end of the day you have to love yourself as well and KNOW what you deserve. Always know your worth. ALWAYS. :)

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  11. Ate Karla is it okay to tell my feelings to the guy I like? :-(

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    1. Of course! Just be casual about it and be honest. :)

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